By: Yineth Bolanos, Beta Class
Do you ever stop to think where you would like to be right at this moment? With a better job? More money? In a different city? There are countless answers to that question, but the true question should be, why aren’t you satisfied with your current life right now?
Many times we think of being unsatisfied with our current lives as a sign of ambition and hopes for a better life. Although this can be true, it shouldn’t be a constant thought. You shouldn’t allow these thoughts to take over and to cause you to wish for another present. Many times we find ourselves wondering when this moment in life will arrive. For whatever reason we can’t seem to be grateful for how far we’ve come and how much we have improved as it is. Being where you have always dreamed of is important, but being aware and grateful of your progress is too. To reach that goal or that moment you’ve always wanted to live, you may need to look somewhere else instead of forward. In the constant day to day, we’re busy with school, work, interning, networking, and I could go on for a few more lines. The deal is we are always looking forward looking towards the goal, the dream, where we want to be. We never stop to think of where we were and where we are now. Looking back can mainly improve our outlook on life and where we might end up tomorrow. So here are the five reasons why you aren’t where you want to be.
- You are unhappy with your current life and do nothing about it.
Sure, everyone knows being a 20 something-year-old and being in debt is not exactly anyone’s ideal. However, you can’t mope around and make your present a living nightmare. Notice exactly what it is that makes you unhappy or stressed out and try to find a solution. The answer to the problem may be easier than you think. If you don’t enjoy your current job apply to other places, if you don’t like what you are studying explore other interests, just do change what needs to be changed to make you happier.
- You are too focused on the future.
Yes, it is awesome to be focused on your goals and to stay focused on them. However, you cannot simply live your current life day dreaming about your future job, career, or lifestyle. Stop to think of ways that you can work towards these goals without allowing the thought to take over your life. You need to enjoy all the little things that come with being young and not living the perfect life. Lao Tzu once said, “If you are depressed you are living in the past, if you are anxious you are living in the future, if you are at peace you are living in the present.”
- You don’t give yourself enough credit.
STOP being so hard on yourself. It’s unnecessary stress that only makes you freak out even more. Look back a few years, look at all the people you’ve met, all the lives you have impacted. Look at all the lessons you’ve learned and all the friends you’ve made. Take a moment to look back and to appreciate how awesome you are. Look at how successful you are and compare yourself to the present you. It’s always important to compare yourself to old versions of yourself for you are the only one who has lived your life. It is never beneficial to compare yourself to others.
- Take a chance
Working towards your future is not just while you’re young. It’s a constant mindset, because believe it or not once you reach your goals you’ll make new ones, and the cycle will begin again. So don’t allow it to become your entire life, take a moment to breathe in all the wonderful things around you, and while you’re at it take a chance. Do something out of your comfort zone, take a dance class, learn how to DJ, go skydiving, take a trip, plant a garden, just do something you wouldn’t normally do. Find beauty in something you normally would over look.
- It simply is not the right time
Sometimes no matter how hard you try or how many things you do, you don’t reach your goals. This doesn’t mean you’re never going to achieve them; it may just mean that it’s not the right time for you. You can’t be the next Barbara Walters, or the next Steve Jobs just yet; there are moments you have to live and struggles you need to face. You need to grow and develop in several ways before you stand where the current you would like to stand. Hopefully, when you look back one day on where you stand today you won’t have regrets because you followed steps 1-4.